I know it might be too late for the Recipe for the lady finger but if you are talkin about fry lady finger dish without the tomatoes you probably are looking for this ?

Cut the 1 kg lady fingers lengthwise!

In a pan heat about 2-3 tbsp of veg oil. Add Ginger, garlic and green chilly paste. Then add 1 large onion( sliced). Nex comes 1/2 tsp turmeric, 1-2 tsp red chilly powder, 2 tsp coriander powder and 1tsp cumin powder and salt to taste. Add the lady finger and cook till done.

And yes you can fry the lady fingers separately if you like it crispier and add it towards the end.

For the dry okra curry, you do need to fry the okra (sliced crosswise) first, and remove them from the pan. Then you temper the spices and curry leaves in the same pan, add in tomato and fry until soft, then you mix in the pre-fried okra, heat through and serve. To turn it into a wet curry, simply pour in some coconut milk in the end and heat until slightly thickened.

And for the okra dish, what I do usually is just fry some mustard seeds and curry leaves, add chopped tomatoes, okra and ground cumin, until tender. sometimes I stir some yogurt after turning off the heat.

Hope that helps!